tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5367380195716157771.post955489909474542102..comments2022-04-02T10:30:12.139-07:00Comments on The Price of Truth : The Real Reason I Lost My FamilyGenendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02929548265107859942noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5367380195716157771.post-89000589544653313902014-01-09T18:49:37.949-08:002014-01-09T18:49:37.949-08:00Hi Yehuda,
I actually think the person who wrote t...Hi Yehuda,<br />I actually think the person who wrote this, read this post out of context, without realizing that I really was completely cut off by my family by the rabbonim in Baltimore because I refused to keep my father's abuse a secret. Perhaps they didn't read enough to know that my father is still the principal of an elementary school. In that light, I think the response makes sense. If I gave up my entire family because they couldn't validate all the parts of me, that wouldn't be as sad as the reality. It would be a choice that I made in order to feel safe. The sad part is that I was forced to choose between myself and my family. It was iether shut up, or kares. It was my family or myself. Your parents saved my life.<br />I love you like a sisterGenendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02929548265107859942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5367380195716157771.post-85043942154751704812014-01-09T14:24:59.512-08:002014-01-09T14:24:59.512-08:00Genendy,
I know that the example I'm going to...Genendy,<br /><br />I know that the example I'm going to give doesn't come close to what your experiences are but I'll tell it anyway.<br /><br />Both of my parents are Ba'al T'shuva. I have very few relatives who are religious and that pretty much translated into not having much of a relationship with them. I've started reconnecting with some of them recently but these connections are more like a newfound acquaintance relationship rather than a cousin relationship.<br /><br />Like you though, my parents made a beautiful family for themselves. My brothers and I are probably 4 of the closest brothers and now I'm married and have 2 wonderful daughters to pour my love to. I wish I had more of a connection to my aunts and uncles and cousins and their kids, but the family I'm building is worth so much more.<br /><br />Keep up the amazing work you are doing to shed light on this subject. You have such an amazing family. Your husband is one of my best friends and your kids are simply wonderful and beautiful neshamos.<br /><br />Love,<br />Your YehudaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01849399169853319472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5367380195716157771.post-88491646800545873312014-01-09T12:21:45.732-08:002014-01-09T12:21:45.732-08:00Genendy, I know that without you I would be drowni...Genendy, I know that without you I would be drowning in a cess pool and no one would listen or want to. You are the voice of the voiceless. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5367380195716157771.post-59466300272612803092014-01-09T11:56:44.598-08:002014-01-09T11:56:44.598-08:00I'm so sorry you were hurt as well. I am a s... I'm so sorry you were hurt as well. I am a survivor. No longer a victim. I have been blessed with a wonderful, bright life, right now, in the present. Nothing to pity here. I feel fortunate to be able to write, and express myself with words. And yes, I struggle with missing my family. If you do not appreciate my writing, that's fine. Everyone has their own path to healing. I'm glad that yours is working well for you. <br /><br />Reading your post again...I'm wondering, do we know each other? You seem to take what I write very personally.Genendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02929548265107859942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5367380195716157771.post-486153683244387612014-01-09T09:11:23.943-08:002014-01-09T09:11:23.943-08:00Are you really trying to heal? From all of your wr...Are you really trying to heal? From all of your writing, it sounds like you rather stay hurt. I am a victim as well. I refuse to remain a victim. You embrace the victim role. I stay away from my abuser, but not from those who could not know what happened. You want everyone to validate you. that is not realistic. Suit yourself, go to your grave a nebech victim. Or, embrace life, focus on the bright future, and quit wallowing in self pity. And, yes. It was with the help of great therapists that I have the strength to thumb my nose at the past, and refuse to wallow in self pity.<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com